I Doubt It

There is a pervasive untruth that is foisted upon us early in life and then reinforced at every turn. We hear it when we try-out for sports or take tests to get into school. We hear it when we interview for our first, or second, or twentieth job. We hear it every time we make…

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Natural Born Leader

The function of leadership is to produce more leaders, not more followers. Ralph Nader I used to tell people that I was born to be an engineer. It seemed to me that the ease with which I learned math and mechanics, my ability to visualize and design, and the speed at which I could do…

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Not My Problem

The story of the Good Samaritan is fairly well known, but in case you don’t know it let me recap. Dude makes decision to cut through bad part of town, alone, with valuable things on his person. Predictably, he is rolled by the bad guys and left for dead. Several people pass by him without…

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Hike Your Own Hike

I just returned from Yosemite National Park. Once a year I go on a retreat with a handful of men who are committed to helping each other be great husbands, fathers and leaders. We hike together, eat together, share life together and encourage one another. It has become one of my most cherished times of…

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Cultural Camouflage

In the summer my family likes to attend the evening service at another church because they do a series called “At The Movies.” The pastor teaches a biblical truth using the story in a popular movie, complete with clips from the film. I am always amazed at how the truth in the story, even when…

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Sex Was Never Safe

I have told you before that I read a variety of things from a wide range of sources. Often those sources push views that I am not aligned with. I read an article last week that fits in this category: on a site I rarely agree with and by an author I don’t share much…

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Words Matter

The saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” is a lie. Words have the power to build or destroy. Words have the ability to open people to possibility or close them off. Words matter, and they matter most when they are used by people we care about and…

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Change Becomes You

“One’s purpose is often hidden. Often we do not have the slightest idea what we are, until we become it.”12 That is author Kevin Tobia’s paraphrase of something Nietzsche wrote. I don’t completely agree, but it begs the larger question of what makes us, us. In his article titled “Change Becomes You,” Tobia raises some…

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Left Behind

Nobody showed you how to live? Me either Get a steady job, couple kids Act decent But I’ve been on a ten-speed thinking about the time as the sun sets Like, what would I do different if I hit rewind and did it again? These lyrics in a song by K.Flay called “Dreamers” had me…

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A Fork In The Road

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I – I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. In the poem “The Road Not Taken” (1916), Robert Frost is confronted with two paths in the woods that appear similar, and he chooses to walk down one (maybe the more challenging),…

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